Saturday, December 1, 2012

When Grief Subsides....What's Beyond?

Grief a major part of a widow/widower's life. Although everyone works through grief in their own way, there are still some similarities. I'd guess the majority of widow/widowers go through various stages of shock, denial, guilt, anger, depression, and hopefully acceptance. But every journey will also be unique.

Once we work through our stages of grief and accept our loss, the grief begins to subside. Then we have to decide what we're going to do with our life. There are endless possibilities of new goals and dreams for our future. Each one of us will have a different story to tell. Some widows remarry within a few years. Some widows are content never to marry again. It is all an individual choice.

I spent 14 years of being a single widow, before I remarried. The first few years I worked through grief and also wanted to help my daughters through grief without adding a stepfather to their lives. I prayed for God's direction and went back to school while I declined a marriage proposal. There were choices I had to make and I chose to follow God's plan for my life. It made living more peaceful and easier.

In my book, A WIDOW"S PURSUIT: Finding Out There's More to Life Than Grief, I wrote about my challenges that I went through in grief and beyond. How I made new future dreams and goals. I share how I conquered many challenges of being an independent and single woman. (When I had no intentions of wanting to be single again!) But once I accepted my fate, I made the best of single life.

Not every widow will experience what I did. But this is my story. A personal memoir of how I pursued my faith to overcome grief and consequences to that decision is where I discovered an amazing life after my loss. I not only found purpose from my loss but I was rewarded with God's blessings and peace in my life. He was able to fulfill and sustain me through some of my darkest moments.

Once my grief subsided, and I began to make new goals, I felt like a butterfly, about to take her first flight. Each widow from this point will have a different story to tell. A different ending and a new beginning. I hope that I can encourage other widows not only by sharing the end of my grief but also by sharing my new beginnings. My book is now available on Amazon.com

9 comments:

His Sparrow said...

So excited for you - I have put this on my list and hope to be able to get it soon. Many blessings - I am sure it will be helpful to all who read it!

Tim said...

Congratulations on your book. What a great achievement. I'm gonna check it out. Hopefully it will give readers the strength that you must have gotten from writing it.

Cindy Adams said...

Thank you! Yes, this has been quite a big project I've worked on for years. I hope also that other widows will gain insight into their own journeys from reading mine:) Blessings back to both of you!

Red said...

Congratulations on your book! Rest assured, there will be many who find wisdom and comfort in its pages.

Marriott Cole said...

Your book looks really interesting and helpful. I love your optimism! Sincerely in Jesus, Marriott Cole, author Grace, Miracles, and Chocolate

Cindy Adams said...

Thank you, ladies! I hope it does give comfort to other widows. I also look forward to connecting more with other authors and will check out your book, too, Marriott:)

Witness said...

To God Be The Glory, Cindy! I am extremely proud of you. I just placed this book in my Amazon Wishlist. You are awesome!

Samantha Light-Gallagher said...

Cindy
I bet your book will and is helping so many. I think it is great that you wrote a book! Congrats! I agree with you that each person choses what's right for them.

Cindy Adams said...

Thank you so much for the encouraging words. It's a little scary to put it out there, in the BIG world, so words of encouragement are welcomed:)